I don't know why people even care about that. I go out of my way to not use my work laptop for personal work/projects/etc. Especially considering the amount they value the laptop at (which may be inflated) is deducted from your severance payment
From my experience, not many people set boundaries between work and personal tasks and the number of people who have personal software projects outside work is tiny.
I too am guilty of using work laptop for personal work like shopping etc couple of times.
Personal anecdote:
one of my colleagues was recently discussing about replacing his 6 year old laptop that he rarely uses, one of our architects commented : "I don't understand why anyone would need a personal laptop at home. We can use our work laptop for anything that our mobile can't do". I was surprised to hear that from an architect and even more surprised to see many others nod in agreement.
On the one hand, having complete separation of work and personal electronics is a best practice. On the other hand, most of us don't carry two phones or two laptops when we travel on business.
If I were a senior government official or in some other high profile/sensitive role I'd probably be more conservative but it's pretty common to use some combination of personal and business-issued devices for everything.
Reputation. Have you not seen that post that pops up every three months or so about how some startup had their funds "stolen" (whether true or not) by Stripe?
OTOH, I am 100% sure a robot doctor wouldn't have prescribed me a medicine that interferes with the metabolism of my birth control pills and is pregnancy Category D (known to cause birth defects when taken in pregnancy). A human doctor did though.
There’s a 100% chance I’d use a robot doctor (qualified, capable) over a human doctor (qualified, capable).
Robots don’t get tired or have fights with their spouses. Robots don’t follow red herrings based on the most recent conversation they saw in a chat group.
AI doctors will always exploit logical flaws to boost their narrowly defined KPIs.
This sounds bad but in reality it's a consistency upgrade over meat powered doctors who are trying to balance many, many more variables.
It's like the difference between a capricious bureaucracy that might be chasing revenue one day, stats the next, political clout the third and enforcing morals the fourth to a street gang that DGAF seven days a week as long as you pay them.
My fear of robot doctors are ones fully trained and controlled by the company creating them or insurance companies.
With a human doctor there may be variability in how they treat you and what they tell you - you could appeal to a person's empathy.
But what if robot doctors are trained by insurance companies to withhold information or procedures that should be done if the patient doesn't have insurance or can't afford it?
Human doctors do this too - I'm not denying that, but at least there's some variability there.
With a robot doctor you could have a 100% success rate in withholding information.
I could be entirely wrong, I don't know any laws surrounding withholding info, but there could be some legal grayness there.
An insurance company would never admit that their robot doctor was trained to withhold info. They could just say that their robot doctor got it wrong.
[EDIT] This is definitely a people controlling an AI problem versus an AI problem, but I still think it's worth calling out. Maybe it's the pessimistic inside of me, but I just don't see a future where specialized AI X will be trained in good faith by companies.
Finding a capable doctor is not easy in the first place. There are a surprising number of primary care physicians and even specialists that are really just terrible at their job, at least that has been my experience.
To counterpoint, their success is probably correlated with consumer spending habits (If consumers don't spend, transactions aren't happening, Stripe isn't getting its commission)
The case against Stripe probably sits with an understanding of how an incoming recession will impact the volume of transactions Stripe is dealing with.
> If I were an employee I'd take the liquidity now before this goes the way of WeWork
To take the liquidity an investor has to give the liquidity - if all the employees on the inside believe in the mission so much that they want to sell ...
You're reading too much into the office closures. GitHub has basically always been fully remote and only a minority of employees have ever even seen one of the offices outside of occasional team meetups. Practically, all it means is that the employees who sometimes worked from the offices will have to find a co-working space or just work from home all the time.
Water is blue, just like air is blue, just like blue-tinted glasses are blue. They disproportionately absorb non-blue frequencies, which is what we mean when we call something "blue".
Didn't Netlify have layoffs recently? Wouldn't expect a non-public company that needed to layoff +10% of their workforce to have the kind of cash to buy out another company.
Trying to "flirt" in those spheres is looked down upon just as ferociously as doing it at the office. Have you not seen the viral TikTok of the woman that was "angry" that some guy was "checking her out" at the gym, while the man was barely paying attention at her at all?
Treating hobby scenes as pure dating opportunities is definitely looked down on. If you show up to Introductory Spanish and start dropping pick-up lines on strangers, yeah, people are gonna show you the door.
But hobbies are an opportunity for repeated exposure to strangers. Lots and lots and lots of people start casual friendships that can turn into romantic ones.
Using a hobby as a meat market: deeply uncool, and people will notice very quickly.
Using a hobby as a way to meet people, and having one of those relationships turn romantic: totally natural!
It’s a very fine line, yeah, but trust me, it is extremely obvious which one people are doing.
I don't use TikTok but I understand the problem. I wasn't talking about visiting those places just to pick up a partner. I was talking about opporunities provided by a place were you are basically forced into communication.
The hardest part in any relationship (at least if you are a shy person without much of experience) is to start talking. It's much easier to talk to someone if you already know each other. Work\clubs etc - provide a great ground for a first step(s)
Obviously people will turn away from you if you just came by to flirt.
>as ferociously as doing it at the office
People always flirt in the office thouth. In many cases they do this naturally and even without any thought about any kind of continuation. In many cases they are in a relationship even.
Flirtin is not only about sex, in fact it is more about sharing with other people "youtube pickup masters")
Is it? 1 Tik tok video doesn't really prove the point (seems to me it proves the opposite).
Also it depends what you mean by flirting. If you join a class and immediately start trying to pull every person of the opposite sex (or same sex if that's your thing), that just gives the vibe of being there for the wrong reason. If on the other hand you meet someone doing a thing you wanted to do anyway, and a friendship blossoms, that seems to be the point at which you start flirting.
As a 30+ year old kissless virgin I have recently began noticing that the loneliness part has began affecting me more deeply than usual. I suppose noticing the first signs of aging in my face led to the realization of all things not-done. I've had a couple of episodes of despair in the past few months because of this.
Unfortunately people like me become helpless. You'll be alone because you _are_ alone: you don't have any social proof, any social skill, people your age don't "get together" to find a partner at the same rate as younger people, they have higher expectations regarding your experience and more.
The way I see it, once each man crosses a certain age without any or much sexual experience they will become stuck in that category the rest of their lives. Whether we have the tendency to lash out violently against others or ourselves more than the average, I don't know. I wonder if the solution by Western society will come in the way of some "Minority Report-like" way to identify us and pre-emptively lock us out.
This is obviously very dependent on life situation but consider taking a year off and traveling somewhere where you'll have better luck dating and just focusing on yourself.
Thailand and Colombia are the two obvious choices to me. Quit work, and just get a $500 a month apartment and focus on working out every day and enjoying life. You WILL find people interested in dating you if you have reasonable expectations.
There's gotta be somebody you can pay to help you develop social skills. Kind of like etiquette schools or something, maybe with opportunities to practice. It's like a personal trainer of sorts. I'd charge, what, maybe $60/hr to take somebody with me to the dog park and help them engage in conversation, give them feedback and ideas, etc.
I am under psychiatric treatment. And the way we treat it isn't by expecting me to magically integrate to society at my age with my lack of experience but by managing the despair.
That's why I wanted to comment here: I found most comments looking for "ways" to get these guys "dates". But some (and I bet it's most) of those who are sexually lonely (or romantically lonely) are past the social point-of-no-return. They are pestilent to others. Constantly exposing them to environments where they will face rejection at best, excoriation at worst is only going to drive them deeper into misantropy. And that may lead to violence.
As others mentioned you could “just jump in the pool.” And it would work eventually. But from these comments I don’t think you will.
Instead going to point out that you are not the only one. I know a female version of this for example. You might seek these folks out, it’s the age of micro communities, however unlikely.
Bluntly and ultimately a person needs to “get over themselves.” Our lives are filled with pain. We and everyone we love will be dead within a few decades. Refusing to live to avoid pain is on you, barring disease or dismemberment. Not to mention unrealistic.
Continuing your treatment sounds like a good idea. When you feel stable, one thing that blew my mind was skydiving. Cheapest quickest therapy ever. In a few seconds everything you thought was important ceases to exist. I literally kissed the ground after landing and said, “I’m alive!”
I'd agree with the point that "it's never too late". However, other ideas seem more suspicious. E.g. it's not that "I don't think you will" - he won't because he can't, not because he doesn't want to.
Possibly; we don't have enough information to know what strictly cannot be done in this situation.
Many times when I can't get myself to do something directly, I trick/outsmart myself into doing it another way. Give myself no choice, for example.
There's also perspective. Watch Les Miserables for that perhaps.
But, as you alluded these are appeals to the rational mind, which may not be available right now. Only the doctor/patient has an idea.
That wouldn't accomplish anything about developing the skills to get a relationship. It can get someone over the nervousness of first sex, but that's it.
I'm curious, how'd you know? I would guess pretending to go on a date with paid partner could help connect some dots - after all that's a real human right there. And the nervousness actually is a big deal of the problem.
I may be totally wrong, but please bear with me: what do you feel about going out? Not for dates but for "honing" some social skills and maybe even creating opportunities (okay less of that but still).
I can't "hone" social skills because I have none. And at my age you can't "get" these skills because in order to get them you need to interact with other people, and in order to interact with people my age you need social skills.
Like I commented elsewhere: exposing oneself to more scenarios of rejection can only drive one deeper into misery. Like wanting to cure an autistic child's sensitivity to noise by exposing him to a string of loud, crowdy concerts.
We are having here a little conversation about a very sensitive topic to many, this counts for me as a social skill. But maybe you mean in "real life" - about which I cannot comment.
The replies your comment got are very very illustrative of HN. Not much actual advice but plenty of gut responses masquerading as advice.
At one point in my life most/all of my socialization stemmed from going to garage and estate sales. This was during a time where I would have been homeless without my parents.
Otherwise, I’ve also gone the Forest Gump route in the past. Walking for an hour or longer has an amazing affect on inhibitions that’s much healthier than alcohol or medication.
I do reject that learning social skills is suddenly locked out at some age. But I definitely agree that it gets more difficult. Oddly, supposedly there’s a long low point until the 60s. People in their 60s have an uptick in happiness and life satisfaction that seems more about actually being 60 than about the life lived to that point.
At the time of this comment, your comment is the only reply to his or her comment… However, thanks for sharing your story. Non-gut responses are the better kind.
