I just want to say you're not alone in having family like that; the vast majority of my dad's side is like this (my mom's side are all basically hippies). I love them to death, and they're good people, but they're so damn insecure about their way of life (or they're insecure that they can't force it on to others, in my grandmother's case), that they want to stop others from getting opportunities for fear they might change it.