I cannot speak to the OPs social circle. To me it sounds pretty uninformed to think anybody working with the military is building bombs. The DOD (the US military) has about 2.8 million employees and there are about another 2 million people who work as defense contractors. I find it strange to think all those people could constantly be working on bombs.

By comparison the largest US commercial employer is WalMart with 1.5 million US employees. Imagine (for the sake of numbers) every WalMart employee and two of their kids constantly making bombs.