I would like to live in a world where OCSP stapling is widely deployed and we can require OCSP and advise people to set must-staple if possible while everybody who doesn't staple will just have to eat the privacy implications. But this is not (yet and for the foreseeable future) that world.
Apache and nginx both shipped OCSP stapling implementations that are very bad, awful enough that for almost anyone I'd say "No, don't enable that" rather than try to explain how they need to use it and get them to a place where it's useful and safe. Adam Langley wrote years ago about how to do this correctly, and there does seem to be a little bit of movement in the correct direction at Apache, but the situation remains pretty poor.
Apache and nginx both shipped OCSP stapling implementations that are very bad, awful enough that for almost anyone I'd say "No, don't enable that" rather than try to explain how they need to use it and get them to a place where it's useful and safe. Adam Langley wrote years ago about how to do this correctly, and there does seem to be a little bit of movement in the correct direction at Apache, but the situation remains pretty poor.