I’ve had that anger before. It even extends to ruminating about the events - I assume that’s protective too, as maybe I think that if I think about things long enough it cant happen to me again?
I'm prone to rumination and at some point I learned to turn that into a positive. When I was younger, I would get stuck in mental loops of imagining some negative outcome, but I started asking myself "What outcome do you want?" and trying to use rumination as a problem-solving tool to try to imagine how you get there from here.
So I imagine X social problem -- argument with a friend, for example -- and instead of getting into a ball of fury about how I'm sure this will go badly, stop at that point where I am imagining it going south and ask "What reply would move it in a better direction?" basically. Then iterate from there until it goes from reliving some nightmare scenario over and over to imagining various potential solutions.
It's been wonderfully life changing.
More recently, I’ve had some success with magnesium l-threonate
Working on my health has been enormously helpful in improving my ability to manage my mood. When I'm under the weather, I'm much more prone to stewing for various reasons. Magnesium deficiency is one of the things I'm prone to and have to work at combating.
I'm prone to rumination and at some point I learned to turn that into a positive. When I was younger, I would get stuck in mental loops of imagining some negative outcome, but I started asking myself "What outcome do you want?" and trying to use rumination as a problem-solving tool to try to imagine how you get there from here.
So I imagine X social problem -- argument with a friend, for example -- and instead of getting into a ball of fury about how I'm sure this will go badly, stop at that point where I am imagining it going south and ask "What reply would move it in a better direction?" basically. Then iterate from there until it goes from reliving some nightmare scenario over and over to imagining various potential solutions.
It's been wonderfully life changing.
More recently, I’ve had some success with magnesium l-threonate
Working on my health has been enormously helpful in improving my ability to manage my mood. When I'm under the weather, I'm much more prone to stewing for various reasons. Magnesium deficiency is one of the things I'm prone to and have to work at combating.