> Since there are few male teachers, the boys without a strong father figure at home never get taught how to channel their masculine energy in a healthy way

I'll give an alternative perspective: people who talk this way try to shame men into traditional "masculine" roles

I'm not just talking about hetero vs queer either. More like, pressuring men to "care about" the marriage -> kids -> nuclear family life track. Or pressuring men to (implicitly) see women as sex objects

Something I've realized: whenever someone talks about this "crisis", they're always making some implicit demand on how other people should live

that goes both ways. For sure I know exactly what you're talking about. I see this a lot in deeply religious movements. That said, its not particularly helpful to go from "you must participate in daily prayer" to "you must participate in pride." They key here is Tolerence. you don't have to like it or partificpate in it, you just have to accept that what other people do is fine as long as its not harming anybody. Sadly, neither the extreme right or the extreme left seem to get this.

By their own admission the point is to socially dismantle heteronormative white men. These identity groups are considered oppressors in Western communist ideology. So they're to be taken down, as an adaptation of the old "seizing the means of production" mantra to modern cultural targets.

Wokeists have managed to get into powerful positions in most if not all Western institutions, so their attacks are being enabled throughout society.

That's why there's so much discussion about how to end whiteness, suppress toxic masculinity, and promote queerness. These are thinly veiled discussions about destroying the oppressor class and taking power. They were never about human rights, mutual respect, or acceptance.

Some Western communists are more direct and aware of it than others, and some actually want the system to collapse because it would create opportunity for their preferred system to emerge.

Male impotence serves its purpose of reducing resistance to the political project. Men can regain their social power by joining the revolutionaries, but at personal cost. For example, I've recently seen incels talking about transitioning as a means to access intimacy and support. I've also seen hetero white men change their entire appearance and cultural views in the last several years, in order to receive popular approval.

The men who don't do these things, either because they don't understand it or because they reject it, are being left behind. Many then join reactionary ideologies like The Red Pill (Andrew Tate-ism), Trumpland, Inceldia, or Christian nationalism. Many become akin to the hikikomori in Japan - socially isolated and withdrawn, playing videogames and watching porn all day. Others get on with their handicapped lives and try to avoid attention.

Those who do compromise are still constantly walking on egg shells. If people don't like them for some reason, their past will be dug up. If something is found, they get excommunicated.

To be clear, I have no problem with trans or queerness in people. I just recognize that it's one of the best ways for modern men to gain support and approval in a world where they're otherwise being systematically attacked. I see the appeal in picking up a pride flag in order to be embraced by the broader community. I can understand why an emotionally damaged person would go to great extremes to end the suffering, whatever the rationale.

The main points I want to get across is that this is all part of a demoralisation process, people are being victimized and coerced, and there is no intention to resolve the issue. The only allowable way out for men is to join the game, anything else is to be met with derision and hostility.