If you only count those actively looking, like you do for unemployment, it can be extremely different. Lets say only half of women are looking while all men are, the half who looks quickly finds a partner, but you are still left with half of men who can't find any while the remaining women don't look, creating massively more men who can't find any than women.
I see, this does add another dimension. It seems the OP was assuming that women are more frequently opting out of the dating pool, but that's probably not a bad assumption based on what I've read in popular media lately.
